Getting Personal Part Two: The Loss of My Baby Boy

Posted by on Feb 23, 2017

This post is another post about me. Hopefully it will give you a little more background info about me.

My husband Tim and I tried for years (3 1/2 years at this point) to become pregnant. I did a dye test (called an HSG) which was painful and uncomfortable, I had laparoscopy surgery to check my tubes, my husband was tested, and I took my temperature religiously for many years so I could chart my cycles and try to find an answer. We finally resorted to IUI (Intra Uterine Insemination) and after two tries a miracle happened. I was pregnant!

To say we were thrilled would be an understatement. We started buying a few essentials for baby and I looked at and longed for baby clothes and diapers and all that comes with them. We felt our baby move and heard his heartbeat numerous times. We were so excited to find out if we were having a boy or a girl so we could start decorating and planning. We headed to THE ultrasound appointment with anticipation and excitement. But it only took a moment for that to change. The ultrasound tech got a funny look on her face and didn’t say a word. She kept moving the tool around without saying anything. She then let us know that our baby did not have a heartbeat. She quickly called my doctor who advised me that I needed to head to the hospital so I could deliver my baby. With no heartbeat. At 20 weeks.

I remember calling my mom as soon as we left that appointment. She laughed as she answered the phone saying she knew I couldn’t wait long to call her. She was expecting to find out if we were having a boy or girl. I can still remember the exact words I said. “My baby is dead.” And I lost it, sobbing into the phone. We drove to the hospital and were checked in to labor and delivery. The doctor came to start my labor. So many mothers and fathers in the rooms around us were getting ready to welcome their new bundles of joy with happy, smiling faces, and newborn cries. But not us.

I remember not wanting to talk to or see anyone. I just couldn’t stand the thought of facing the reality of what was happening. And if others were there it would be real. I couldn’t keep hiding inside my mind. Even with Tim there holding me while I cried and shedding tears himself, I felt utterly alone.

It was a short 7 hours later after dealing with all the regular contractions and labor pains (including an epidural), that I gave one quick push and my tiny, non breathing, silent hearted, baby boy was born. I held him in my arms and bawled. Until that point we still hadn’t known if it was a boy or girl. Without seeing a heartbeat at the ultrasound, the gender had been forgotten.

Tim and I discussed a name for our firstborn and decided that Quentin James was fitting. We had his body cremated and had a short ceremony at my brother’s house. His ashes are now in my living room.

This was easily the darkest time in my life. I struggled with the idea of never becoming a mother. I convinced myself that God didn’t have that in His plan for me. I was angry and afraid. I retreated into myself for a long time. The only reason I survived this dark time was because of my wonderful, supportive husband and my family.

I now have peace that I will be with Quentin someday. And I know I am a better mom because of having gone through this. But I would never wish it on anyone. It was the hardest thing I have been through. The pic above is of Quentin’s tiny little hands and footprints. They weren’t very developed so you can’t see them very well. It breaks my heart just looking at them.

Read Part One Here



Cirque de Soleil’s OVO Comes to Utah! Plus, Enter to Win!

Posted by on Feb 22, 2017

GIVEAWAY! Cirque de Soleil’s OVO show is coming to the Maverick Center!! I’ve got four tickets for you to see this amazing performance on Sunday, February 26, 2017 at 5:00PM. Head to our Facebook page to enter to win now!

OVO is a headlong rush into a colourful ecosystem teeming with life, where insects work, eat, crawl, flutter, play, fight and look for love in a non-stop riot of energy and movement. The insects’ home is a world of biodiversity and beauty filled with noisy action and moments of quiet emotion.

When a mysterious egg appears in their midst, the insects are awestruck and intensely curious about this iconic object that represents the enigma and cycles of their lives.

It’s love at first sight when a gawky, quirky insect arrives in this bustling community and a fabulous ladybug catches his eye – and the feeling is mutual.

OVO is overflowing with contrasts. The hidden, secret world at our feet is revealed as tender and torrid, noisy and quiet, peaceful and chaotic. And as the sun rises on a bright new day the vibrant cycle of insect life begins anew.

Buy your tickets now! I’m so excited for this show, it’s ridiculous. I’ll have an update for you after my boys and I go tonight.



It’s Time For Valentine’s Clearance Shopping!

Posted by on Feb 16, 2017

Deals of the Week

Here are my top deals of the week as featured on Good4Utah today. Make sure to tune in next Thursday for the new deals! And check back here every day for all the other great deals you can score.

Ah clearance. That’s probably my second favorite word. Right after free. Although there is a bit of a love/hate relationship since I sometimes go a little crazy.

This week we are talking Valentine’s clearance. Now is the time to stock up for next year and even get some great items for this year! There are lots of items included that don’t look Valentine’s at all! Lots and lots of things from the dollar spot also that aren’t Valentine related at all.

Target Valentines Clearance

I stopped by my local Target yesterday and Valentines clearance has dropped to 50%. Candy and food was marked down to 30%. They will likely drop to 70% and 50% tomorrow.

There were so many deals that there is no way I can list them all. But here are some that I saw:

  • Leggings
  • Tee Shirts
  • Dresses
  • Magic Ink coloring books
  • Cookie sheets & molds
  • Notebooks
  • Hot Wheels
  • Barbie Dolls
  • Quaker chewy bars
  • Pirate’s Booty
  • Bags of candy
  • And tons more!


Apply to Host a Fairlife SuperKids House Party

Posted by on Feb 16, 2017

Apply to host a Fairlife SuperKids Party on April 1st. There are 1,000 spots available!

If you’re selected and confirmed as a host, your exclusive Party Pack will contain:

  • $10 Reward Card for hosts to get fairlife® SuperKids™ for their party
  • fairlife SuperKids certificates
  • fairlife SuperKids sheets of badge stickers
  • And more


Graco Extend2Fit Convertible Car Seat $125 Shipped (Reg. $199.99)!

Posted by on Feb 15, 2017

Amazon has this Graco Extend2Fit Convertible Car Seat in Gotham Print for only $125 shipped (regularly $199.99).

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends children ride rear-facing until at least 2 years of age. Extend2Fit features a 3-position extension panel that provides 5” of extra legroom allowing your child to ride safely rear-facing longer. The seat can be used rear-facing from 4-50 lbs. and forward-facing from 22-65 lbs. The seat features Simply Safe Adjust which allows you to adjust the height of the harness and headrest as your child grows, InRight LATCH for a one-second LATCH attachment and Fuss Free harness storage which holds the buckle out of the way, so it’s easy to get baby in and out.



Cinemark Prize Pack Winners!

Posted by on Feb 15, 2017

 

The winners of the Cinemark Prize Packs are…

Daphne Thomas
Jemima Watts
Nora Johnson
Katie Schreiber

*Send an email to jacki@mamasonadime.com with your name and mailing address so your prize pack can be shipped!

Congratulations!



Reliefband: Say Goodbye to Motion Sickness #LifeChangingTech

Posted by on Feb 13, 2017

About Reliefband:

Reliefband® clinically proven, FDA Cleared wearable technology for the treatment of nausea and vomiting associated with morning sickness, motion sickness and VR Gaming.

Using highly effective and responsive technology, our digital wearable devices are clinically tested, FDA cleared and endorsed by the medical profession. Easy-to-use, comfortable and adjustable, they bring a new dimension to treatment by putting people back in control.

 

Review:

Recently I took my kids to a local amusement park geared toward children called Jungle Jim’s Playland. We had been in the past and I loved that my older boys could take my younger daughter on the rides while I watched. My kids very favorite ride is the roller coaster. It actually just goes around in a circle over and over again. Super fun, right? Yeah, not so much for me. I don’t even like to watch this ride. It makes my head feel a little woozy. But on this particular trip my 2 year old daughter REFUSED to go on the roller coaster without me. No amount of bribery or coaxing would change her mind. So, what was a mom to do? I got on the ride with her, of course.

I thought to myself, “I will totally be okay. This ride goes pretty slow. I’ll just focus on my cute girl and not the circles I’ll be traveling in.” BIG MISTAKE. It didn’t take long for me to feel the spinny circles going to my brain. After the ride was over I stumbled off, asked my friend Charity to keep an eye on my kiddos and made a beeline for the bathroom. I did not lose my lunch, but I really thought I was going to. I spent the rest of the trip with my head down on the table while my kids ran around with their besties and my friend checked on me every once in a while. Obviously not the best way to spend my time, eh?

Enter the Reliefband. If I’m being honest, I was VERY nervous to give this little watch-like device a try. I didn’t want a repeat of the roller coaster debacle. But, I did know that I wanted to be able to do those things with my kiddos again. So I slipped this little baby on and started spinning in circles. Seriously. I figured this would be the easiest way to try it out while still being in reach of my bed in case things went wrong.

After spinning for a minute or two (it really didn’t take long) I started to feel those familiar feelings: wooziness, vomity, you know the ones. So I flipped the watch on and waited. I felt nothing at first. A tiny little shock and a bit of tingling in my fingers. I decided to turn up the volume so to speak. Since the Reliefband has 5 settings I wanted to figure out what would work for me. I amped it to 3 and took a seat. The tiny shock got bigger, although still not uncomfortable. And my symptoms? They started to fade away.

I did a little happy dance right on the spot. I mean, I have dealt with motion sickness my entire life. (I even up-chucked my lunch on my family vacation in Hawaii when I was 11). Could this be real? Yes, yes it could! I knew I had to do a bit more experimenting before I embraced my giddiness. My next experiment? Reading while riding in the car. I made the hubs take me for a drive and I brought my book along. As soon as those uncomfortable feelings started to make themselves known I turned on the Reliefband. Again, it worked. And fast!

I am ridiculously excited about this thing. It is literally life changing. I am now free to do things I couldn’t before. I can go on that 3D ride without it ruining my entire vacation. I can take my daughter on the kiddie roller coaster and lose my lunch. I’m so ready to do more tests and to enjoy my life a little more. If you have ever suffered from motion sickness, morning sickness, or anything similar you should absolutely check this little baby out!

 

Buy It:

Get your own Reliefband for $94.99 (down from $114.99).

If you are not satisfied with the product for any reason, simply return it to us within 30 days of purchase for a FULL REFUND.

That’s how confident we are that Reliefband® will work for you.



It’s Back! *HOT* Super Soft Leggings ONLY $8.99 a Pair!

Posted by on Feb 13, 2017

In case you missed this deal, it’s back!

Jane.com is offering these super cute and super soft leggings for only $8.99 a pair!

I absolutely love leggings and how comfy and cute they are. But I don’t always want to pay the high price of the “name brand” ones. So here is a win for frugal shoppers everywhere!

Our best selling leggings are now available for a great deal! Ultra soft and great quality these leggings will be a staple in your wardrobe all year long. With 40+ different styles and the great low price, now is the time to stock your closet!



Valentine’s Day Gift Guide For Her, Him, and Kids & Family

Posted by on Feb 9, 2017

It’s that time of year again! Time for love, kisses, and happy thoughts. So we have rounded up our favorite products and ideas for YOU! This should make it a bit easier for you to get a gift for that special someone, no matter what your budget is.

Valentine’s Gift Guide for Her

Valentine’s Gift Guide for Him

Valentine’s Gift Guide for Kids & Family



Valentine’s Day Gift Guide For Him

Posted by on Feb 8, 2017

The men in our lives are so hard to buy for. I know that I struggle as well as my readers so having someone else give me ideas? Yeah, I’m all for that.

Kindle HD10 – Fire HD 10 features a widescreen 1280 x 800 high definition display with over a million pixels (149 ppi) for a bright, vivid picture. Enjoy a great viewing experience with wide viewing angles, less glare, blacker blacks and more brightness thanks to a fully laminated IPS (in-plane switching) LCD display.

Cinemark gift card – This is a no brainer, right? We all love a good movie. But even better, we love a date night! So add this to your list and you can relax in the luxury loungers, cuddle up with the Cinemark blankets, and have an awesome night out! Plus, enter to win a date night prize pack!

Adore Me Lingerie – I really debated which list this one should go on. It could work for him or her. But, ultimately I decided that mostly we put that little something on more for him, than for us. So it ended up on the him guide.

If you want to get a little more racy with your gift, you can head to Adore Me and get some lingerie for just $19.95! They have sets, baby dolls, corsets, and more. Plus, if you choose to keep getting sets you will always get your 5th one free!